Eh, ever feel like you’re stuck in a never-ending MRT ride of drama? Singapore life can be chio, but also full of siao situations. But what if there’s a secret weapon to navigate it all? Emotional Intelligence (EQ)! Forget the textbooks; let’s talk real-talk EQ, Singapore style.
EQ: The New ‘Kiasu’ Edge
Forget the typical definition. We’re talking about the little things that make a big difference in navigating life’s ups and downs. It’s more than just knowing your feelings; it’s about how you handle them and the people around you.
- Understanding Emotions
“Emotionally intelligent people recognize emotions ARE a form of intelligence, and hold all kinds of important information. They learn to express rather than suppress emotions.”
- Calm Under Pressure
“When they can calmly de-escalate a situation or a person.”
- Self-Awareness is Key
“Methodical with their choices would also fit into this category. Methodical, motivated toward whatever goals they have set for themselves, and eventually able to guide others along with themselves since they have those other traits you mentioned as well.”
‘Kiasi’ Moments: EQ Challenges
Let’s be real: Singapore life can be stressful. From squeezing onto the MRT to dealing with kiasu colleagues, it’s easy to lose your cool. Here’s where EQ gets tested:
- Challenge: Overthinking everything
“Not taking things personally. Emotionally intelligent people don’t assume every action or word is about them.”
- Challenge: Not knowing when to share
“Knowing when to open up and when to hold back. Oversharing too soon or holding back out of fear can both get in the way of connection.”
- Challenge: Quick to Judge
“If they tend to land more in the Gray and highlight ambiguity of situations, which requires ability to empathize with multiple sides, then they are more emotionally intelligent than a person who sees only two sides – Black/White, Right/Wrong.”
‘Can Do’ Attitude: EQ Solutions
Good news: EQ is a skill you can build! Here’s how to level up your emotional game in Singapore:
- Solution: Pause and Reflect
“The ability to pause before responding—not just in conflict but in everyday interactions.”
- Solution: Embrace the ‘Gray’
“Rigidity stems from that black and white thinking. The remedy is to force yourself to think of 5-10 alternatives, and train the brain into stay in Gray.”
- Solution: Listen to Understand
“Listening to understand rather than listening to reply”
