Do you ever feel like you’re just pretending to be an adult? You might look around and assume everyone else has a secret manual for life. However, as the years go by, a surprising truth starts to sink in. The “adults” are often just as lost as everyone else, and that’s just the beginning.
The World Isn’t So Simple
First, you begin to see the world with clearer eyes. Many people realize that the idealized version of adulthood is a myth. You learn that role models and even parents are flawed, complex individuals doing their best.
“when you realize how imperfect your parents, grandparents, and many other role models in your life really are”
Furthermore, this realization extends to society at large. A common discovery is that many people are primarily self-interested. This can be a difficult and isolating truth to accept as you get older.
“An upsettingly high percentage of people don’t give a shit about anyone or anything other than themselves.”
Navigating Life’s Big Challenges
Consequently, these realizations create new personal challenges. The most common feeling is that nobody truly knows what they are doing. This sense of universal uncertainty can be both terrifying and strangely comforting.
“That nobody really knows what they’re doing, we’re all just winging it with varying levels of confidence”
Moreover, this uncertainty often bleeds into practical areas of life. For instance, many people express deep anxiety about their financial future. They follow all the rules but still feel like they are falling behind, making goals like retirement seem impossible.
“I can save all the money I want based on all the jobs that I’ve ever had and at this rate I will never have enough money to retire comfortably.”
How to Thrive Anyway
Therefore, how do you navigate a world where everyone is winging it? The solution lies in shifting your focus inward. You must learn to prioritize your own well-being above all else, because you are your own best advocate.
“Look after yourself because no one else will.”
Additionally, this means focusing on the fundamentals. Simple, consistent acts of self-care have a massive impact. For example, getting enough sleep is one of the most powerful things you can do for your physical and mental health.
“Sleep is the single most important thing in life. Pretty much every health and mental health issue gets worse if you are not getting your full 8 hours”
Finally, you can embrace the idea of continuous growth. Realizing your past self was naive is not a failure. In fact, it is a clear sign that you are learning and evolving, which is the entire point of the journey.
