Feeling lost after years of being a shut-in? You’re not alone, Singaporean. Many face similar challenges. This post offers practical steps to reconnect and rebuild your life, one step at a time. Let’s chiong ah!
Current Situation
- Increased isolation is a growing concern, especially after the pandemic.
Hi OP, I believe what you have is hikikomori syndrome. You have already taken the first step to start seeking for a job and that’s great.
- Reddit shows many Singaporeans are experiencing similar struggles with isolation.
Hey OP you are not alone.
I too was a shut-in for 5 years. Like you I just started a job. 6 months in now. There are some hard days but just being out and about is better than alone with your darkest thoughts.
- One Singaporean Reddit user shared their experience of being a shut-in for 6 years after polytechnic and NS.
Challenges Faced
- Overcoming inertia and breaking old habits can feel impossible.
Next step is stop feeling sorry for yourself. Can’t move forward if u keep looking at the past.
- The pressure to conform to Singaporean societal expectations adds to the stress.
I cried when i read this… you and i we are in the same boat… im also been disconnected with my reality almost to 6 years and im in my late 20s too…. Hi there 🥹👋🏼
- Fear of judgment and difficulty reconnecting with friends can be paralyzing.
Actionable Solutions
- Start small: Focus on achievable goals, like a short walk outside or applying for one job.
Take things 1 step at a time. You don’t have to solve all the problems at once.
Take some time to reflect and list out all your problems and rank them in terms of importance. Then, focus on the top 1/2 and forget about the rest. Next, work on it by constantly halving the problem until you land on something you can act upon on the next 5 mins and just do it.
- Seek professional help: Counselling can provide support and strategies for overcoming challenges.
Hmmm can’t believe no one suggested this yet. Seek counselling/mental health help! I think the hardest part really is to get out of the lifestyle and you have already done it! That takes a lot and you should be proud. Now you need to sustain it, and you would benefit from some help to make it easier. All the best OP!
- Find purpose: Explore hobbies, volunteer, or take a class to rediscover interests and build connections. Remember, even gamers have strong determination!
Gamers also have the best determination amongst types of people, if they can give the most extreme dedications to grind for goals in game; you can be hella sure they have the potential to do it IRL too.
