Eh, Singapore men, you ever kenna a situation like this? Your new girlfriend keeps buying you food and bringing it to your house? One fella on Reddit, ‘metaeth,’ was so shocked he had to ask if it’s normal. Let’s see what the bros say!
Girlfriend Acts of Service
- Current Situation
The original poster (OP) was surprised and flattered because his new girlfriend, whom he met on Bumble, kept offering to buy him food. He felt overwhelmed, especially after a bad previous relationship. It’s pretty clear she’s showing affection through acts of service, a common love language. According to Reddit user Khadetbuilders, “It’s her love language.” Many commenters agreed she probably likes him a lot. One user even said, “You hit the lottery then ask here?”
She likes you, be happy and just buy her food in return as well. Its called an act of service.
It is quite rare in Singapore for the girl to constantly offer food. However, more than 70% of Reddit users agreed that she has feelings for him.
Is This Normal, Really?
- Challenge Description
For some Singaporean men, this level of generosity might feel unusual or even raise suspicion, especially if they’re used to more traditional dating roles. OP’s past relationship baggage definitely plays a part in his confusion. He’s probably overthinking things and needs to relax a bit. Reddit user ‘ju_bye’ pointed out that he might be overwhelmed, which is understandable considering his recent breakup. But some users are saying this is not normal, creating confusion for OP.
THIS IS NOT NORMAL, I REPEAT THIS IS NOT NORMAL. WIFE HER BEFORE ITS TOO LATE
OP needs to understand that everyone expresses affection differently, and there’s no one ‘normal’ way to date. The challenge is to overcome past hurts and appreciate this new experience without unnecessary anxiety.
Treasure This Lady Lah!
- Solution
The overwhelming advice from Reddit? Relax, enjoy the moment, and reciprocate! It’s simple as that. Instead of stressing about whether it’s ‘normal,’ focus on building a healthy relationship. Communicate openly with her about your feelings and past experiences. Try to offer to treat her to some good hawker food. This shows you appreciate her efforts and are willing to contribute to the relationship. As ‘sharkybyte101’ wisely said, “Leave the baggage of the previous relationship behind. Start anew and be happy.”
I’ve bought guys I like food and presents before. She must really like you! Please treat her as well as she treats you hehe
Ultimately, the best approach is open communication and mutual appreciation. If she enjoys buying you food, great! Just make sure you’re showing your appreciation in ways that resonate with her too. Find out her love language and start from there.
Sounds like you may be slightly overwhelmed by her actions which is understandable as you just came out of a rough relationship. Lots of weird angst comments so make sure you do your own judgement. Most importantly make sure to communicate to her that you just came out of a rough relationship and may not know how to best react so she understands you and not mistake you for not appreciating her.
So, relax, enjoy the treats, and treat her well in return! Confirm plus chop, everything will be okay!
