Dating in Singapore can be a minefield, ah? You think you’re going to find ‘the one’, but end up with someone who tries to sell you insurance or worse. Don’t say bo jio – here’s how to avoid those nightmare dates, based on real Singaporean experiences shared on Reddit.
The Dating Scene in Singapore: Reality Check
Singaporeans are taking to Reddit to share their dating woes, and the stories are wild. From mismatched expectations to outright bizarre behavior, the struggle is real. Here’s what’s happening:
- Catfishing is still a thing: People using outdated or heavily filtered photos.
Guy arrived and has grey hair and heavier than in his pictures. Clearly picture used is quite a while ago. Has the self awareness to joke about himself being an old man. It isnt too bad but pretty assholey imo, especially since he was aware how different he looked
- Insurance agents are lurking: Some are using dating apps as a new hunting ground for clients.
Towards the end of the date, he took out his iPad. LMAO. He asked me if I wanted to see some new policies his company has to offer 😭
- First date job interviews: Some people ask invasive questions about your family’s finances and career prospects.
Point no. 2 – a former date asked me whether I did investments soon after the first date. During the first date, she asked me questions such as “What is your father’s academic discipline”; “after your position in the org you will be working in, what will be your next position”; “what is your sibling’s salary”. Ha.
- Unrealistic Expectations: Some people expect immediate and constant communication, leading to quick exits if replies are delayed.
I woke up to a message saying “Intentionality is something I value the most, I don’t think we are off to a good start. I readily agreed to meet you in person because I thought you’re interesting and funny and so on, basically saying she normally doesn’t move this quickly”
The Biggest Dating App Challenges in Singapore
So, what are the biggest pain points for Singaporeans trying to find love online? Here are a few:
- Lying and misrepresentation: People not being honest about their relationship status or physical appearance.
He then went silent and suddenly admitted that he is a divorcee and that he did not honestly declare on the app. I was speechless and wanted to leave right there and then because I hate being lied to.
- Money Matters: Unequal expectations around who pays, or being used for a free meal.
HE STILL MADE ME PAY.
- Self-centeredness: Dates who only talk about themselves and show no interest in you.
During lunch she basically talked just all about herself, didnt even ask about me.
- Clashing Values: Discovering fundamental differences in values and principles.
She merely said “I have enough planners and leaders at home , I do not need another for a life partner”.
Smart Ways to Handle Singapore Dating Woes
Don’t give up on finding love! Here’s some practical advice to navigate the Singapore dating scene:
- Screen Thoroughly: A phone call before meeting can reveal a lot about a person’s personality and intentions.
Screen them more thoroughly – best to do a phone call even before you meet them.
- Be Upfront About Expectations: If you’re busy and can’t reply immediately, let the other person know.
Maybe it’ll be good to be upfront if your work doesn’t allow you to be responsive to texts during the day.
- Don’t Be Afraid to Bail: If you’re uncomfortable or see red flags, don’t feel obligated to stay.
Needless to say I ended the date very early and ran off
- Trust Your Gut: If something feels off, it probably is.
- Communicate Clearly: Address issues directly and honestly, but don’t be afraid to walk away if your values don’t align.
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