Have you ever been told “real men don’t do that”? These unwritten rules about masculinity are everywhere. They tell men what to eat, what to drink, and even how to feel. But what happens when these rules stop making sense? A recent online discussion revealed just how absurd—and harmful—they can be.
The “Real Man” Rulebook
In today’s world, outdated ideas about masculinity still persist. Men often face pressure to conform to a narrow set of expectations. These “rules” dictate everything from personal preferences to basic self-care. They create a culture where simple choices become tests of manhood.
Furthermore, this can lead to truly bizarre situations. For example, some men will deprive themselves of things they enjoy. They do this simply because the packaging or activity seems “unmanly.” This mindset affects daily life in countless ways.
“This man literally deprived himself of something he absolutely loved because the label was a black background with neon pink, green, orange, yellow flowers on it.”
Additionally, these standards can even extend to basic hygiene. Some believe neglecting cleanliness is a sign of toughness. This idea is not only strange but also unhealthy.
The High Cost of Conformity
However, following these arbitrary rules has real consequences. Men’s physical and mental health can suffer greatly. Ignoring safety precautions or refusing healthy food leads to preventable problems. This stubbornness is often framed as strength.
“My co worker while doing a deep clean of the kitchen using very harsh chemicals ‘real men don’t wear gloves’ motherfucker was complaining about dry, red and itchy hands for a week after”
Moreover, these stereotypes strain personal relationships. When men refuse to participate in family life, it creates an unfair burden. This includes things like eating meals together or attending important events. The expectation to be tough often leads to isolation and conflict.
“He would refuse to eat it. He said soup wasn’t real food, and salad was food his food ate. He would throw tantrums until his recovering wife would get up and make him steak and potatoes.”
Redefining Modern Manhood
Fortunately, many people are pushing back against these toxic ideas. They are redefining manhood on their own terms. This new approach values partnership, health, and emotional intelligence. It is about being a better person, not just a “real man.”
Therefore, taking action is simple. Start by sharing household responsibilities. Cooking, cleaning, and childcare are life skills for everyone. Being an active and present partner is a true sign of strength. It also sets a powerful example for the next generation.
“I do my share of cooking, cleaning, laundry, etc… not only do I take pride in it but it’s a learning lesson for her son…that it’s ok for men to do household chores.”
Ultimately, true confidence comes from being yourself. Don’t let outdated stereotypes limit your life. Eat the salad, drink the beer with flowers on the can, and be there for the people you love.
