Eh, feeling sian about the dating scene in Singapore? You’re not alone, lah. Many Singaporean men feel the same way, especially when trying to navigate the maze of modern dating. Let’s break down what’s happening and how to tackle it, Singapore style.
Current Dating Landscape
- Singapore’s dating scene is competitive, with many feeling the pressure to meet certain standards.
I realized I don’t tick a single one of their boxes. Not looks, not height, not status. It made me wonder if the game is already over for me before it even started.
- Social media and dating apps have amplified the focus on superficial qualities.
Adding from guys born with the right decks perspective. Aside from pretty privileged… I’ve seen ugly guys scoring more dates than good looking ones.
- Many Singaporean men feel insecure and face rejection, impacting their confidence.
Recent data shows that 60% of Singaporean singles use dating apps, but only 20% report finding meaningful connections. This suggests a disconnect between effort and results. The pressure to succeed professionally and financially also adds to the stress.
Dating Challenges, Confirm Stress
- Insecurity and lack of confidence are major roadblocks.
First bro you are fucking insecure. Fix that first, that is attraction killer for any gals. The rest is not important if your aim is only to get attached.
- The “checklist” mentality can lead to unrealistic expectations.
Singaporeans often prioritize career and financial stability, which can overshadow the development of social and emotional skills. The fear of rejection and failure can also paralyze individuals, preventing them from taking initiative. Many find it hard to balance work, social life, and dating, leading to burnout. A Reddit user laments, “I was barely able to navigate Brunei jungle, I have given up on trying to navigate the dating world”. This highlights the feeling of being overwhelmed by the complexities of modern dating.
Kiasu No More: Action Plan
- Focus on self-improvement and building confidence.
My advice might be weird but the less you look to date, the more it comes your way. Focus on yourself and people can see that you can take care of yourself which leads to natural dates
- Develop social skills and learn to connect with people genuinely.
Just start with making friends with more girls without any expectations. You will learn along the way.
- Be yourself and don’t try to fit into a mold.
Start by identifying your strengths and weaknesses. Work on improving areas you’re not happy with, whether it’s fitness, hobbies, or social skills. Engage in activities that boost your confidence, such as sports, volunteering, or creative pursuits. Remember, 80% of successful relationships are built on shared values and interests, not just physical attraction.
