Eh, single Singaporeans in their 30s, you also feel the pressure or not? Finding love in Singapore can feel like finding a parking spot in Orchard on a Saturday – damn hard. But is it really that hopeless? Let’s see what the Reddit crowd says.
Dating Scene: Now Like Dat
- Dating in your 30s in Singapore is a mixed bag. Some are actively looking, while others are content with singlehood.
I don’t feel anxious about not finding someone because I honestly enjoy being alone. I just wonder if my life would be better if I manage to find the right one so I still go on dating apps. Being with the wrong one is way worse than being alone.
- Many feel the pressure to find someone but also value their freedom. It’s a “want yet do not want” situation.
- First dates can feel like job interviews, with questions about your job, salary, and housing situation. Financial stability is a key concern for many.
As a >30 <35 M, sometimes 1st dates feel like job interviews. They'll ask things like your job, salary, house, education, etc.
- Some Singaporeans have given up on dating apps due to low success rates.
Biggest Problem? Too Stress!
- The constant cycle of introducing yourself and sharing your interests can be tiring.
Ngl, it’s tiring to rinse and repeat your interests, occupation, what you like and dislike, etc…
- Family and relatives often add pressure to find a partner and get married. This can lead to anxiety and frustration.
- Many have encountered “fuck boys” and situationships, leading to jadedness and mental breakdowns.
- Some feel that being in a bad relationship is worse than being single, preferring to wait for the right person.
The loneliness of a relationship/marriage that isn’t working is far, far worse than the loneliness as a single.
How to Cope? Relax Lah!
- Focus on enjoying your own life and pursuing your interests. Singlehood can be a time for personal growth and semi-retirement.
I’m really enjoying my singlehood path so far, I have my own place, lots of time to pursue my own interests and semi-retiring before hitting 50 is a real possibility.
- Don’t give up hope, but also don’t stress too much. Sometimes, the right person comes along when you least expect it.
So she gave up finding one, relax, and let it be. Well, last year in her early thirties, she found her right one just from a random meeting. So don’t give up hope, and relax. 🧘♂️
- Be clear about your expectations and don’t waste time on those who are not serious about a relationship. Know what you want, and don’t settle for less.
- Remember that fights and conflicts are normal in relationships. Find someone who can communicate and resolve issues fairly.
Fights / conflicts will happen. Gotta find someone who will fight fair with you, fight through it with you.
- Jiayou! Just keep trying and remember to enjoy the process.
