Ever kenna that situation where you just want to zzz on the bus or MRT after a long day, but an acquaintance starts yapping non-stop? It’s a Singaporean struggle, sia. We’ve all been there, trying to subtly hint that we need our precious quiet time. But how to do it politely without offending anyone? Let’s see what the Reddit community has to say.
Current State of Commute
- Commuting in Singapore is a daily reality for many, and it’s often the only chance to catch a break.
“Was tired. Took a long bus to office just so I can catch some sleep”
- Sometimes, unexpected encounters can disrupt this much-needed rest, leading to awkward situations.
- Many Singaporeans find themselves in the same boat, wanting to avoid unwanted conversations during their commute. The pressure to be polite can be strong, even when exhaustion hits hard.
- The need for personal space and quiet time is a growing concern in our densely populated city.
Commute Challenges Faced
- It can be challenging to balance politeness with the need for personal space and rest.
“End up he chattered on for the entire 45 mins ride and I didn’t get a wink of rest”
- Singaporeans often feel obligated to engage in conversation, even when they’re tired or not in the mood.
- Some people lack the social awareness to recognize when someone doesn’t want to talk, leading to uncomfortable situations.
“His EQ damn cui, cannot sense people don’t wanna talk to him haha”
- The fear of offending someone can make it difficult to assert boundaries.
Solutions For Peace
- Be direct but polite: A simple, honest explanation can often do the trick.
“Sorry bro I damn tired and just want peace and quiet, don’t angry hor, maybe next time can lim kopi” then proceed to put in your earpiece and eyes shut.
- Use body language: Put on your earphones, close your eyes, or lean against the window to signal that you’re not up for a chat.
- Offer an alternative: Suggest catching up another time when you’re more rested.
“Hi, sorry, I didn’t get much sleep and I was counting on taking a nap on the bus today. If you’re still around, can you make sure I wake up at XX stop? Meet up for coffee another time?”
- As a last resort, some Singaporeans resort to creative avoidance tactics.
“Had similar situations like this when I just want my own peaceful quiet time in the train. There’s this once I met my ex primary school friend in the train and he started to chat with me…After realizing his going to talk non stop for the entire journey, I lied that I was alighting at Bedok and I got off at Bedok and board the next train”
