Scroll through Instagram or Facebook, and sometimes it feels like everyone is posting their perfect holiday, their amazing new job, or even just their cai png lunch. But ever feel like… you just don’t want to? You’re definitely not alone in Singapore.
The Quiet Log Off Trend
Lately, more Singaporeans seem to be choosing privacy over publicity. On forums like Reddit, many share they simply don’t feel the need to broadcast their lives online. It’s not about being anti-social, but more about valuing personal space and keeping updates for closer circles. The feeling is that many people, especially guys, tend to post less or not at all, preferring real-life interactions over online validation.
- Many prefer keeping personal life private
“There’s alot of guyz who rarely post or none at all.”
- Enjoyment of privacy is a key factor
“…personally i also think i do not need to share my personal life to everyone and i too very much enjoy my privacy . only the people i text daily knows what i am up to .”
- Anonymity on platforms like Reddit is valued
Why Skip The Updates?
So, why the hesitation to hit ‘post’? For many Singaporeans, it boils down to a few common frustrations. There’s a strong dislike for the ‘flex culture’ ā showing off wealth, travels, or relationships just for likes. Some worry about attracting unwanted attention or envy, while others simply find it tiring (‘lazy’) to recount experiences repeatedly when asked about their posts. Plus, in today’s world, there’s a practical concern: potential employers might screen social media, making a clean, private profile seem safer for career progression.
- Dislike for online ‘flexing’ or showing off
“Me. Post for what ? Flex ? Make others envy ? I have better things in life to do.”
- Avoiding unwanted questions or attention
“I don’t want people to think i have the money to afford my holiday trips. I don’t like being asked how’s my holiday blah blah (i am lazy to tell stories).”
- Concerns about professional image and screening
“If you want to go higher positions, it is best to have your name squeaky clean. They hire companies to do social media screening for certain positions.”
Living Low-Key Online
Choosing a quieter online life doesn’t mean disconnecting entirely. It’s about being intentional. Many find a balance by using social media selectively ā perhaps just for specific interests like sports or hobbies, or for finding travel ideas, rather than personal updates. Some post very occasionally, just to let friends know they’re okay. Platforms offering anonymity, like Reddit, become spaces for discussion without personal exposure. Ultimately, stepping back from constant posting allows more focus on real-life connections and personal well-being, free from the pressure of maintaining an online persona.
- Use social media for specific interests, not life updates
“I mean I do have social media but its mainly for my entertainment (sports, manga, anime, etc).”
- Selective use for practical purposes like inspiration
“My insta is only for when I need travel inspiration š Reddit is basically the only social media platform I use.”
- Occasional posting as a simple check-in
“I post once in a while, random stuff, just so people dont think iām dead”
- Focus on privacy and real-world engagement
