Eh, got a feeling your partner’s been acting a bit sus lately? Maybe they’re always “working late” or glued to their phone. In Singapore, it’s a tough situation, and finding out the truth can feel like navigating a crowded hawker center during peak hour. But don’t worry, we’ve got you. Let’s explore how fellow Singaporeans are dealing with this, and what you can do.
The Affair Alarm: What’s Up?
In Singapore, the topic of infidelity is, unfortunately, not uncommon. Reddit threads are filled with stories of suspicion, heartbreak, and the lengths people go to uncover the truth. Hiring a private investigator (PI) is a common thought, but it’s expensive. Many Singaporeans are looking for alternative ways to find out if their partner is cheating. Stats from a recent survey show that 20% of Singaporean couples have experienced infidelity, which is a significant number.
- Rising suspicions
“I found out they went for a weekend trip to malaysia.. his bimbo posted a photo of them together on the trip (and many other dates all during time when he say he was busy at work).”
- Seeking alternatives to PIs
“Hiring a PI is really expensive isn’t it? But how do Singaporeans actually does it in order to use “evidence” to expose these cheaters.”
- Phone, social media, and gut feeling
The Siao Complication: What Makes It Hard?
Finding out your partner is cheating can be a major headache, especially in our small, connected island. The pressure to maintain face (mian zi) and the potential for awkward encounters in your HDB estate or at the kopitiam add another layer of complexity. The cost of PIs is also a major barrier. There’s also the emotional toll – dealing with the betrayal, and the fear of what the future holds. The expectation is that you’ll have a perfect relationship, but the reality is often much more complicated.
- Costly PIs
“I was quoted 2500$ for 15 hours.”
- Dealing with betrayal
“Came home and saw a pair of heels (that wasn’t mine) outside of the house and surprise surprise, master bedroom door was locked.”
- Maintaining face
The Jalan Solution: What Can You Do?
So, what can you do? Don’t panic! First, trust your gut. If something feels off, it probably is. Start by checking their phone or social media. If you’re not the confrontational type, you can ask a trusted friend or family member to help you look for evidence. Consider discreetly checking their phone or social media. If you find something, gather evidence (screenshots, photos, etc.). Also, document everything. This will be useful if you decide to seek legal advice. Remember, you’re not alone. Many Singaporeans have been through this, and there’s support available. There are also community resources, such as counseling services and legal aid, that can help you navigate this tough time.
- Trust your gut
“Phone, social media and trust your gut feeling. Thats how I caught my cheating ex.”
- Gather evidence
“So the wife of one of the owners (who had signed) came across this advert, so she was curious to see who didn’t sign, and then came across the husband’s name as one of the owners. Funny.. cos their own apartment was in joint name, so what is this other apartment with just the husband’s name on it?”
- Seek support
